Helping Children Name Big Feelings

Big feelings become manageable feelings the moment they have a name. Here's a five-step practice we teach families and educators: 1. Notice — Pause when you see a shift. "I noticed your shoulders tensed up." 2. Name — Offer a word. "That looks like frustration. Or maybe disappointment?" 3. Normalize — Let them know the feeling is welcome. "That makes sense." 4. Navigate — Ask a small question. "What would help right now?" 5. Nurture — Stay close. Regulation is a relationship, not a technique. Do this once a day, for a week, with any child. You'll be surprised what changes.